When the work is too hard right now
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Meltdowns, avoidance, you becoming the nightly tutor — signs the work is above what they can do alone, and maybe above what they're getting.
If homework ends in tears three nights a week, the usual suspects are laziness or attitude. Often it's simpler: the task is too far above what they can do without help right now.
Signs
- Won't start — sits, stalls, negotiates
- Meltdowns on work they "should" know
- You re-teach every night; nothing sticks
- Tutor sessions are just surviving tonight's sheet
What actually helps
Not harder worksheets. Smaller steps — back up to the piece they missed, then rebuild.
A tutor who knows the classroom context can target the gap instead of re-teaching the whole unit.
What doesn't help
Doing it for them. Shouting. Switching tutors every month without diagnosing why.
If this sounds like your house, start with fit, not more hours.